Never date anyone you think is a perfect partner.

Sometimes they pop up, all glowing and divine, like God dropped them onto earth just for you. It must be what a schizophrenic experiences when they believe someone is an angel.

They seem perfect, they feel perfect, and if you indulge they will temporarily convince you that life is perfect, too. All drugs of choice do.

Seeing perfection in someone else is a subconscious connection to the perfection you see in yourself. If you did not already have the perception of flawlessness inside yourself, you could not bestow it onto another person.

Whenever you are overwhelmed with a “perfect” person, whether it be a perfect physical feature, a perfect attitude, or a perfect sense of humor, start training yourself to view these things as qualities you already see in yourself.

Whatever rush you experience when you are confronted with perfection is the ignition of your passions. Learn to recognize the physical sensations as an alarm telling you that you are in danger of abandoning yourself. Do everything possible to develop an allergy to this feeling.

Your old patterns are being triggered, and nothing is worth hitting rock bottom again. Romance is by definition the abandonment of common sense. If you are losing your sense over someone, then they aren’t the person for you. Lean into your purposeful tasks and realize that a perfect person could contribute nothing to them.

Also, you can contribute nothing to a perfect person, so why, especially as a codependent, would you want to be with one? First you will lose yourself, and then your mind.